Employee Assistance Program Book Recommendations: Divorce / Separation

"... advice to heal from an affair." --Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, New York Times bestselling author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs From a clinical psychologist who served as a clinical supervisor in the Department of Psychology at Yale University, received the CPA's award for Distinguished Contribution to the Practice of Psychology, and has treated couples and trained therapists for over four decades, this newly updated, award-winning book provides concrete, proven strategies for those who seek to survive their partner's infidelity and to rebuild the relationship after an affair. There is nothing quite like the devastation caused when a partner has been unfaithful. Hurt partners often experience a profound shattering of their familiar and valued sense of self and fall into a depression that can last for years. For the relationship, infidelity is often a death blow. This new third edition of After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy. It includes a new section in which patients ask questions not addressed in previous editions, and the author provides concrete strategies for earning trust and forgiveness.

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And Then They Lived Happily...   We enter our romantic relationships with great love, hope, and excitement--we've found the 'one', so we plan and forge our futures together.  But sometimes, for many different reasons, relationships come undo≠ they don't work out. Commonly, we view this as a personal failure, rather than an opportunity. And instead of honoring what we once meant to each other, we hoard bitterness and anger, stewing in shame and resentment.  Sometimes even lashing out in destructive and hurtful ways, despite the fact that we're good people at heart. That's natural: we're almost biologically primed to respond this way.    Yet there is another path to the end of a relationship--one filled with mutual respect, kindness, and deep caring.  Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of Calling in "The One" and creator of the groundbreaking method, Conscious Uncoupling, provides the valuable skills and tools for you to travel this challenging terrain with these five thoughtful and thought-provoking steps: Step 1: Find Emotional Freedom Step 2: Reclaim Your Power and Your Life Step 3: Break the Pattern, Heal Your Heart Step 4: Become a Love Alchemist Step 5: Create Your Happy Even After Life   This paradigm-shifting guide will steer you away from a bitter end and toward a new life that's empowered and flourishing.

In this groundbreaking book, Michele Weiner-Davis gives straightforward, effective advice on preventing divorce and how couples can stay together instead of coming apart. Using case histories to illustrate her marriage-enriching, divorce-preventing techniques, which can be used even if only one partner participates, Weiner-Davis shows readers: * How to leave the past behind and set attainable goals * Strategies for identifying problem-solving behavior that works--and how to make changes last * "Uncommon-sense" methods for breaking unproductive patterns Inspirational and accessible, Divorce Busting shows readers in pain that working it out is better than getting out.

Michele Weiner-Davis offers an empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. Michele Weiner-Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner-Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. Using revealing anecdotes and in-depth case studies, she illustrates practical ways for marriage partners to -avoid the "divorce trap" -identify specific marriage-saving goals -move beyond ineffective, hurtful ways of interacting -become an expert on "doing what works" -overcome infidelity, Internet obsessions, depression, sexual problems, and midlife crises -get your marriage back on track--and keep it there Rescue your marriage with the proven techniques of The Divorce Remedy--sound, sensible advice from a renowned relationship expert!

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In her long-awaited second book, award-winning author Janis Spring debunks the myth that forgiving is the only healthy, morally sound response to violation and proposes an authentic, life-affirming alternative that lets us overcome the corrosive effects of hate and get on with our lives--without forgiving. She also offers a powerful and unconventional model for genuine forgiveness that asks as much of the offender as it does of the hurt party. This bold and healing book offers concrete, step-by-step instructions that help us to make peace with our partner, parent, sibling, child, in-law, or friend--and with ourselves. Penetrating and beautifully written, How Can I Forgive You is bound to change forever the way we think about forgiveness and how we recover from intimate wounds.