Employee Assistance Program Book Recommendations: Relationships

Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even themselves--in order to live life to the fullest. Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems   In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries. You'll learn the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life. This updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, answers the most common questions on the science behind establishing boundaries: Can I set limits and still be a loving person What are legitimate boundaries How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries   Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!

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REVISED AND UPDATED * With a New Chapter on Trauma and Anxiety, a List of Resources, and More * 2023 Nautilus Book Award Winner * As Heard on Glennon Doyle's We Can Do Hard Things Podcast The cultural phenomenon that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency--the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another--has guided millions of readers toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one's self-destructive behavior, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie's own life and the lives of those she's counseled, Codependent No More helps you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries, and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom, and happiness. This revised edition includes an all-new chapter on trauma and anxiety--subjects Beattie has long felt necessary to address within the context of codependency--making it even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the national conversation over thirty-five years ago.

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * LEARN THE 5 SECRETS OF SUCCESSFUL COUPLES Conflict is the top reason couples seek help--but it's also an opportunity for greater intimacy, deeper connection, and lasting love according to this essential guide from the world's leading relationship scientists and authors of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and Eight Dates. "An indispensable resource that couples will use over and over again."--Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can't control and emotions we don't anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight--all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary. Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together.  Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer.

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Strengthen and deepen your relationships with this "much-needed" (Harville Hendrix, PhD) guide that has sold over one million copies, through revelatory practical exercises, seven profound conversations, and sage advice from "the best couple's therapist in the world" (John Gottman, PhD, bestselling author)   Are you looking to enrich a healthy relationship, revitalize a tired one, or rescue one gone awry? We all want a lifetime of love, support, and companionship. But sometimes we need a little help.   Enter Dr. Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy and "the most original contributor to couple's therapy to come along in the last thirty years," according to Dr. William J. Doherty, PhD. In Hold Me Tight, Dr. Johnson shares her groundbreaking and remarkably successful program for creating stronger, more secure relationships.   The message of Hold Me Tight is simple: Forget about learning how to argue better, analyzing your early childhood, making grand romantic gestures, or experimenting with new sexual positions. Instead, get to the emotional underpinnings of your relationship by recognizing that you are emotionally attached to and dependent on your partner in much the same way that a child is on a parent for nurturing, soothing, and protection. Dr. Johnson teaches that the way to enhance or save a relationship is to be open, attuned, and responsive to each other and to reestablish emotional connection. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship and uses them as touch points for seven healing conversations, including:   Recognizing the Demon Dialogues Finding the Raw Spots Revisiting a Rocky Moment Forgiving Injuries Keeping Your Love Alive  These conversations give you insight into the defining moments in your relationship and guide you in reshaping these moments to create a secure and lasting bond.   Through stories from Dr. Johnson's practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, you will learn how to nurture, protect, and grow your relationship, ensuring a lifetime of love.      

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Take the first step to reclaim your most important relationship-with yourself. Why is our world the most populous yet the loneliest it has ever been? Why does research show that the more people we meet, the more alone we feel?Based on decades of work and hundreds of studies, Dr. Amit Sood, one of the world's pre-eminent experts on resilience and well-being, dispels the myth that the main reason behind our loneliness is fewer social connections when, in fact, it is our disconnect with ourselves. External rejections collude with our past shadows, pushing us into unworthiness, imposterism, and self-rejection. The resulting trap drains our vitality and joy and can isolate us for decades.It doesn't have to be this way. Through neuro and psycho-education, It Takes You to Tango encourages you to step back and reexamine your past hurts and present constraints via a refreshingly validating scientific lens. Empowered, you find authentic self-compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness to regain what was always yours: connection, confidence, and calm.No matter your present situation-whether you are parenting a teenager, promoting belonging at work, healing a broken relationship, or improving your health-this book will provide you with powerful new skills to get more mileage out of your brain, achieve lasting success, foster better relationships with others, and fall in love again with you, your closest friend.

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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER "This book feels so hopeful because it's direct, it's really honest, and it's so actionable." --Brene Brown From New York Times-bestselling authors Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, a simple yet powerful plan to transform your relationship in seven days What makes love last? Why does one couple stay together forever, while another falls apart? And most importantly, is there a scientific formula for love?   Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman are the world's leading relationship scientists. For the past forty years, they have been studying love. They've gathered data on over three thousand couples, looking at everything from their body language to the way they converse to their stress hormone levels. Their goal: to identify the building blocks of love.    The Love Prescription distills their life's work into a bite-size, seven-day action plan with easy, immediately actionable steps. There will be no grand gestures and no big, hard conversations. There's nothing to buy or do to prepare. Anyone can do this, from any starting point. The seven-day prescription will lead you through these exercises: Day 1: Make Contact Day 2: Ask a Big Question Day 3: Say Thank You Day 4: Give a Real Compliment  Day 5: Ask for What You Need Day 6: Reach Out and Touch Day 7: Declare a Date Night There is a formula for a good relationship, and this book will show you how a few small changes can fundamentally transform your relationship for the better.

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In print for thirty-five years, Rebuilding is the number one trusted resource on divorce recovery. Now, this classic self-help book is available in an updated fourth edition, featuring a new introduction by coauthor Robert Alberti. If you are going through a painful breakup or divorce, you may feel like the life you once knew is crashing down around you. You need help to gather the pieces and "rebuild" yourself from the ground up. Rebuilding features Bruce Fisher's "divorce process rebuilding blocks," a proven-effective, nineteen-step process for putting one's life back together after divorce. Now the most widely-used approach to divorce recovery, the "rebuilding" model makes the process healthier and less traumatic for those who are divorcing or divorced--and their children. Over two decades of research and practice are combined with feedback from hundreds of thousands of men and women who have used the book on their own, or in one of thousands of Fisher divorce recovery seminars worldwide. This book also includes Fisher's detailed Healing Separation model--the first of its kind to offer couples a healing alternative to the usual slide from separation to divorce. This fourth edition, revised with the assistance of psychologist and marriage and family therapist Robert Alberti, continues Bruce's tradition of straight-to-the-heart response to the needs of his clients and readers. If you've been struggling to rebuild your life after a divorce, this book offers just the right balance of shoulder-to-cry-on and kick-in-the-pants self-help!

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From the country's foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life-with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman- - Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls "emotional connection" - Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional "bid," the fundamental unit of emotional connection - Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others' bids - And more! Packed with fascinating questionnaires and exercises developed in his therapy, The Relationship Cure offers a simple but profound program that will fundamentally transform the quality of all of the relationships in your life.

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * Over a million copies sold! "An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent--and long-lasting--marriage."--Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman's unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make--and break--a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.   Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else.   Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.