Episode Summary
Most parents recognize the importance of finding fellow parents who can relate when it comes to teething, toddlers, tantrums and beyond. But for author Helena Andrews-Dyer, being one of the only Black moms in the local parenting group meant she saw the world — and parenting — through different eyes. She and Dr. Angela Mattke examine the dynamics of race and class in parenting and talk about how to build resilient kids who can withstand (and hopefully, change) the society they live in.
Episode Notes
We talked with:
- Helena Andrews-Dyer is an award-winning culture reporter for The Washington Post, covering the intersection of popular culture, race, politics and art. She's the author of "Bitch is the New Black," "Reclaiming Her Time," and this episode's focus: "The Mamas: What I Learned about Kids, Race, and Class from Moms Not Like Me." She lives in D.C. with a husband whose laugh can be heard for miles and two carefree little brown girls.
- Angela Mattke, M.D., is a pediatrician in the Division of Community Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine at Mayo Clinic Children's Center in Rochester, Minnesota. Dr. Mattke is the medical editor of the "Mayo Clinic Guide to Raising a Healthy Child" and co-medical editor of the Parenting channel on the Mayo Clinic Press website. In her daily work, Dr. Mattke enjoys seeing her patients smile and helping families who are struggling with health challenges.
We talked about:
In this episode, Dr. Millstine and her guests discuss:
- The need for solidarity. Motherhood is a time when you reach for friends with kids so you can complain, compare and question what's "normal." These friendships can be a big help, but sometimes parenthood is all you have in common. Helena talks about how George Floyd's murder highlighted the differences between the mothers, as she learned who she could trust as a Black mom.
- The need to talk about race. Our guests say that parents of every race need to talk to their kids about the role of race in society. But talking isn't enough: You have to put your values into action. Your kids notice what you do and who your friends are.
- The need to build resilient kids. It's important to help your kids learn how to express and cope with their emotions. You can't protect your kids from every bad thing — including racism or more general bullying — but you can build their confidence and resiliency.
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- Purchase the Mayo Clinic Press book "Mayo Clinic Guide to Raising a Healthy Child."
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